By Victor Anya
At one point in time, one will grow up to maturity and think of getting a life partner that one will spend the rest of their life together with. This is a stage everybody must pass through in life except Adam, some men who are born eunuchs and those who have chosen the life of celibacy. Adam was the first man whom the Almighty God created in his own image. Adam didn’t have to search for a life partner because he was the only human being on planet earth at that particular time. But God came to his aid promptly because he knew that Adam needed a helper. “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.” Genesis 2: 18.
God empathized with Adam in his loneliness and felt that he needed a helper and companion. He didn’t want Adam to remain lonely; he wanted Adam to have a companion. He didn’t want Adam to labour all alone; he wanted him to have a helper. “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now the bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man.” Genesis 2: 21-23. Sorry for dragging you into a little bit of religion here. So, Eve was created from the rib of Adam and given to him as his companion and helper. That was the genesis of marriage. Our progenitor, Adam, didn’t have to experience singleness as a man and he didn’t also have to search for a life partner because God gave him a partner at the appropriate time.
Adam didn’t search for Eve, his wife but after him every other man began to search for his own wife except certain men who are monks or have chosen the life of celibacy. It is the sole duty of every man to search for his partner. Therefore, being single and still searching is not a crime; it is the normal process of looking for that singular lady that catches your attention and meets other qualities you need in a lady that you want to spend the rest of your life with. In searching for that exceptional lady of your choice, there are certain physical features you must look out for based on your personality.
Physical features such as statures, eyes, nose, mouth, hair, complexion and beauty will play a major role in determining your search results. I know many pretentious people will say that in the search for a life partner one shouldn’t consider the above mentioned features. But I make bold to say that the people in this school of thought are merely deceiving themselves because you can’t woo a lady who doesn’t have the physical features you need in a lady. You must have the picture of the kind of a lady you want in the eyes of your mind before you begin your search for that special lady.
This initial stage of searching for a partner is not the right time to begin to look for qualities such as good manners, honesty, integrity, morality etc. because you can’t see all these qualities from afar; it is when you have become close to that lady or young man before you begin to look out for these special qualities. So, at this stage, you should focus on the physical appearance that can attract the lady to you.
In my next post, I shall talk about places where you can make a search for that special lady you want to spend the rest of your life with. Watch out for it.